why do I subject myself to this???

I hate this trope:

The goal of this device is clearly to make men stop and think about behaving in such a hateful way. Good aim, but how it accomplishes that is so incredibly off-base it makes me want to cry. You can't use fear of being perceived as gay (rooted in homophobia) to combat violence against gay men (rooted in homophobia). Or, I mean, I suppose you can, but what an awful plan!

Then, to make matters worse, the trope is consistently deployed in a way to excuse the bully and to engender pity for him. He's just another poor lonely gay boy, worse off even than the person being bullied because he isn't out; he deserves your pity, not your scorn. What bull. He deserves every ounce of my scorn.

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And then there came this, from majorly butch football coach Bieste: "I'm not gay you know. I know I can be a little bit intimidating sometimes, but deep down inside, where no one can see, I'm just a girl."

FLAIL OMFUCKINGGOD THIS SHOW IS SUCH UTTER CRAP WHY DO I DO THIS TO MYSELF????????????? "I'm not gay, I'm just a girl"???? Because those are so fucking exclusive???? These writers KILL ME.

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And mind you, this is all in the anti-gay-bullying episode, the one where they so awkwardly try to illustrate Grand Moral Lessons About People Who Are Gay. This show is utter crap. Why do I keep thinking it's going to be better if I return??? It's like a fucking abusive relationship.

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Overview of Video:
You can see a badly recorded longer version of this scene with this Youtube clip, from 6:18 to 7:22.

(jock bully pushes gay kid Kurt into locker after beating up on him all episode; Kurt is majorly pissed and finally willing to call him out, and follows jock into locker room to tell him off)
Jock: Do *not* push me, homo. (shakes fist)
Kurt: You gonna hit me? Do it.
Jock: (slams locker) Don't push me.
Kurt (continuing to invade personal space): Hit me, cuz it's not gonna change who I am. You can't punch the gay out of me anymore than I could punch the ignoramus out of you!
Jock (increasingly agitated): Get out of my face!
Kurt: You are nothing but a scared little boy who can't handle how extraordinarily ordinary you are!
(Jock kisses Kurt for a full second)